Ok, so pose-able dildos aren’t new. They’ve actually been around for quite some time. For as long as I can remember, seeing Craigslist and Freecycle listings for “pack-and-play” cribs always made me cringe a little as I immediately envisioned prisons made of weird bendy penises. I don’t care how sex-positive you are, that’s just weird. Up until a year or so ago though, bendable dildos were at best made of porous “real skin” or elastomer and at worst made of jelly. Their bases were strange, if you bent them too much the wires exploded out of their sides, and they weren’t really something you wanted to have in your pants all day.
New York Toy Collective changed all that by making the first silicone pose-able dildo on the market- Shilo. I first found Shilo through Sinclair Sexsmith during a Cock Confidence workshop. I was thrilled. I’d had Vibratex’s Silky for a while, but hated the texture of it and the porous material. Here was a beautifully sculpted, dual-density silicone toy with a bendable core, which was designed specifically for packing AND fucking. Not to mention- it didn’t have a face on it! So I asked New York Toy Collective to send me one.
I love the texture of the silicone on Shilo- it reminds me of an ever so slightly firmer VixSkin, but less “sticky” to the touch when freshly washed. Unfortunately for me, Shilo has a really pronounced head. This would be great for most people, since that paired with the ability to bend it to the perfect curve means a lot of g-spot action is a guarantee. G-spot stimulation isn’t a pleasing feeling for me though and toys with pronounced heads have a tendency to get stuck behind my pubic bone on the out-stroke, which feels really unpleasant. I’ve tried flipping it upside-down, but I seem to unconsciously rotate toys as I use them, and inevitably I end up with the same pubic-bone fish-hooking going on. It makes me sad, because if it weren’t for the head I’d probably love the daylights out of it.
New York Toy Collective has a companion product though which I absolutely ADORE- a pair of removable testicles on a cockring. That vibrate. Do you love the ball-slapping feeling? Disappointed that the balls of your cock are forever doomed to live out their lives inside your harness? Want to be a weird multi-scrotumed monster? Fancy fisting someone with bonus balls? All of this and more can be yours with the Love Bump! Yes- I said fisting with bonus balls. Hey- if rednecks can have truck nuts, I can have wrist-nuts, OK?
I do find the the cockring portion of the Love Bump is a bit too big- it’s pretty much the diameter of most toys you’d be wanting to put them onto AND it’s stretchy, so it tends to slip down. There’s nothing more awkward than getting a blowjob, looking down, and realising your nuts have migrated to the head of your dick. Using a stretchy elastomer cockring or a ball-stretcher can help prevent them from shifting in use, and can look pretty hot. The bigger size of the ring is a boon though for wearing as wristnuts, but I feel like since they’re stretchy silicone that even if the ring becomes snugger you’ll still be able to rock the look. The vibe pocket is also a little too roomy, and vibes tend to slip out pretty easily. I wonder if adding ridges to the inside of the vibe pocket might help, or maybe just making it snugger. Vigorous ball-slapping with these as they stand tends to cause the bullet to eventually go flying across the room. Wrapping a rubber band around the bullet helps prevent this in a pinch though.
Both Shilo and Love Bump come in four really well thought-out skin tones, as well as some fun colours (you might even still be abel to find it in a black-and-blue swirl, which I had a hand in making happen). The colours tend to vary a bit, and I do find that the lightest tone can be a bit too opaque and peachy for a lot of folk, but the tan tones and dark brown are great with wonderfully realistic undertones. Probably the best skintones of any dildo company out there, that I’ve seen at least.
So- if you want a dildo that you can stuff into your trousers during the day, then fuck someone with at night (or vice verse, if you’re a day-sleeper), you want a pair of balls to accessorise your favourite outfit/dildo, or you want to emulate Jiz Lee pornstar extraordinaire– I really can’t recommend New York Toy Collective‘s offerings enough.
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There are a number of things I really like about the Private Silicone Packer. It’s silicone. Let me say that again- it’s silicone. I love this about it. To my knowledge this is only the second packer that is made of silicone that is commercially available without special ordering a custom prosthetic from shoppes geared toward transmasculine individuals. Like I said before, I like things being sterilisable, and silicone is that. Prior to the Private, every packy I’ve had has been made of “cyberskin” or some other form of elastomer material. These materials allow for a nice flaccid-cock squooshy feeling, but are not terribly long-lived and are rather porous, to put it mildly.
The design on the Private Silicone Packer is also rather ingenious, I’ve gotta say. The tabbed design above the shaft on the Private means you don’t need a specially designed packy strap or special packing underwear/harness combo to wear the Private. You can wear it easily with any o-ring harness you like. Now personally I prefer underoos or a packing-specific jockstrap for my soft-packing needs, but if you like to use your harness as a jack-of-all-trades as it were, go for it with the Private.
The sculpt on the Private is also pretty unique. It’s got three-dimensional free-hanging balls. The balls are rather slim, and a on the tear-drop/egg-shaped side of the range of testicle shapes, but they’re not too shabby. They are a centre even-hanging pair of balls, so those of you who prefer to dress to the right or the left might have a bit of difficulty with the Private. The sculpt work on the shaft and head aren’t too shabby here either. I find the shaft a bit veiny for a flaccid penis but other than that it’s decently realistic.
Unfortunately, the sculpt on this and the silicone are also probably the biggest downfall of the Private. The silicone is single density standard sextoy silicone, so it’s rather firm. Too firm, in my opinion. I’d love to see this in the softer silicones used for dual density toys, or possibly made dual density all together. As it stands, it’s far too firm to be a flaccid cock, and ends up creating more than just the realistic bulge one generally wants when packing, and crosses the line firmly into erection in your pants land. This wouldn’t be too bad if the curvature of the cock wasn’t so rigidly formed, because then it could become a pack-and-play. Sadly, the materials memory in the curve of the Private is too strong to even hold upright using two hands, let alone trying to do so mid-fuck.
If the Private were made of dual-density silicone, it would be pretty awesome. As it stands, it’s too heavy and too rigid for most soft packing instances. Now, if you’re looking for a packy that’ll give you the look of a hard on in your trousers with the cuckolding effect of being unable to actually fuck anything with your erection? This might just be the packy for you. Overall, I give kudos for the idea, and think it could be a great packy with some tweaks. As it is right now? Not gonna be my go-to soft pack unfortunately.
Huge thanks to SheVibe not only for letting me review this as a precursor to deciding whether or not to carry it, but also for listening to their customers and adding packers and other gender expression resources to their offerings. It is definitely appreciated.
